Dating was evil and Courtship, whatever it was, was godly, good and Biblical.
My grandparents would often ask why I wasn’t dating in high school.
This issue shapes our young people, friends, and family more than we could ever imagine. “Let’s just sit back and see what happens” might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn’t one of them. I hope and pray these words spark conversations in your ministries, relationships, and homes. If you need to take a minute to let that sink in, I will be here when you get back… Here’s the deal: marriage isn’t a divine lottery where every person has one winning ticket. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse.” Not a good idea. So, the default for years is to leave as soon as a flaw arises. This requires discipline, restraint, and abstinence from activities that don’t promote holiness. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. ____________________ I hope this discussion continues. I pray parents, church leaders, friends, and family begin to spark conversations about God’s design for dating.
On the surface these cravings are anchored in the members of our body (Romans ), but as we look deeper we find they stem from our sinful hearts (Romans 7:7). A billion years from now, when sin is a distant memory, we will be living lives of love, peace and righteousness in the kingdom of God.
But a thought skirted in and around my mind: Turning back to my computer, my eyes stared out the window and my fingers stilled on the keys as an image came to mind. But for me, over time suspicion replaced trust, and hyper-vigilance replaced peace.
My empathy was diminished, which is a very dangerous heart-position for someone whom God has called to love others.
I explained what courtship was and quoted Joshua Harris, chapter and verse. “I don’t think courtship is a smart idea,” my grandfather said.
“How can you tell who you want to marry if you aren’t going out on dates? I ignored their advice on relationships, preferring to listen to the young people around me who were passionate advocates of courtship.
Some of the specific challenges I identified were: So I founded Practical