It makes me feel like I can’t trust anyone, like all men want just one thing. ”♦◊♦I’ve been writing and researching about relationships between older men and younger women since 2005.While the media is hyping the “cougar” phenomenon, they ignore the reality that in most age-disparate affairs the man is the older (sometimes, as in the case of Hugh Hefner, astoundingly older) partner.In my office, Amber is telling me a familiar story.
Numerous surveys by online dating companies have concluded that most men are primarily looking to partner up with younger women and would happily pass up the opportunity to date someone their own age if a more youthful option came along. First, they say being with a younger woman makes them feel like they’ve still got ‘it’.
Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.
She may be younger, but her feelings are just as genuine as yours. Do establish boundaries In some rather obvious ways you’re at different stages of life, so if you're just enjoying a fling make sure she isn't shopping for wedding dresses.
I believe everyone should be free to design the relationship model that works for them — and for me that’s dating younger men. I respond to maybe one percent of all the approaches I get.
I have one criterion first and foremost: He has to be a nice person.