Stephanie begins by establishing the first rule to learn about dating in Shanghai: Expat men are “spoiled by choice” by “a frenzy of dating as many local women as they possibly can with absolutely no commitment to any of them”.Such an impossible situation is made possible by Chinese women who aren’t able to say “no” when it comes to expat men.Especially since foreigners’ conduct in dating or marrying Chinese girls is not perfect either: some guys do it, because they are exotic in China, therefore relationship is effortless, some do it, because they want free Chinese lessons, and some do it for the visa.However, some of those men are simply attracted to Chinese girls and want to marry them.The policy is now gone, but challenges that resulted from it remain."Following decades of the one-child policy, China is now faced with a shocking gender imbalance — for every girl below the age of 18 in China, there are now three boys," the article noted.
She uses this opportunity to complain about both men and women from China and abroad, implicating everyone for their part in contributing to her plight.
One thing it’s not, according to one female expat, is an ideal place for a western woman to find romance.
Global Times recently published an article written by a “Stephanie N.” Titled “Single foreign females in China don’t have it easy“, Stephanie complains that circumstances are tough for her and other foreign women when it comes to finding love in Shanghai, saying that the “odds are simply against us” and calling the entire experience “bittersweet”.
"The policy had been fiercely debated for a number of months before it finally won approval from the required number of legislators earlier (Wednesday.) Civil rights groups in China have condemned the restriction, pointing out that it discriminates against women by still permitting males to enter into interracial marriages." It is, at its root, a math problem.
Thanks to years of a one-child policy that favored having boys but not girls, the country has a very large imbalance in male-female marrying-age ratios.